How Mothers Raise Their Kids After losing Husbands or their Absence in War?

Of course every mother love her children and cares about them, however, husband absence or the case of losing him increases difficulties and duties where the mother doubles efforts with great patience , particularly nowadays which has been tiring people due to war taking place for five years in Syria forcing them to live in grieve and pain.
But kids need more than love, and it is sensing and witnessing that love ; some mothers prefer not show their feelings before their kids fearing it may spoil them requiring more tendency at a time calls for earning living and escaping death continual missiles.
Om Abdurrahman (thirty-five years old) said: “when my husband passed away in Saidnaya prison after being arrested for three years where he had been tortured till death, I became lonely since he was my soul mate ; besides it was difficult cause he was our bread winner. It is something truly hard for you to live in a world all humanitarian qualities are lost , here raising kids alone is a heavy burden. Despite my love for my children ,I am concerned to raise them in a way that fits the difficult circumstances our country is going through . I am tough with them in order to make them helpful after the absence of their father . I never show them great love or tendency so that I punish them for tiny mistakes although I sense sometimes mother’s primitive emotions that calls for me to go easy on them ; I do not want to spoil them so that they will not obey me any more . I check on them at night to kiss their little cheeks while sleeping praying Allah and wishing them happiness and peace where sometimes some of them smile as if sensing my deep love”.
Besides children need to hear the words” honey, sweety, my angel”; our elder children are pleased to hear such nice words and need that warm hugs.
Ibrahim aged fifteen years old, revealed : “I used to complain about carrying out house duties and bringing groceries which increased after my father traveling to Turkey for work . However , due to the difficulty living in Syria, it becomes hard for my father and me to afford bread.. but my mother’s sweet words for instance ‘ dear son’ and her prayers make me happy “.
Also the mother in similar cases is usually busy in housekeeping in addition to other duties which require more effort being after husband absence the bread winner of the family who need a lot to build their little bodies which does not grow unless other bodies dies according to what grand mothers believe . ”
In every time we could escape death taking other souls; but that day on which death will not pass me will come .. at then I pray Allah to protect my children and to guard them day and night , life goes on despite pain and our children who grow up to be adults though it is too early for that will build our destroyed Home”, Om Abdurrahman said.
By Bayan Alahmad
Translated by Sabah Najem
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